If you missed the part one and two you can catch up here.
vulnerability // part three
My goal for this series on vulnerability is to show the value and importance of healthy vulnerability in an applicable way. Yes, there is a lot of “big pictures” to be considered when talking about confession and learning, but my focus is on the smaller picture. Like the two before this, I went into the topic of trust with that same mind set, but was quickly stopped at a halt. When you open your bible looking for what God says about trusting people he straight up says, “DON’T!” . . .
Jeremiah 17:5 (NIV)
This is what the LORD says
“Cursed are those who put their trust in mere humans, who rely on human strength and turn their hearts away from the LORD.
To understand these harsh words let me bring you back to a point I made in the first post of this series. Guys, we are a broken people! Our hearts are prone to wickedness and sin. Therefore, we know that people are not worthy of our complete trust. Ever.
In today’s world this sounds incredibly rude. To say that all people are evil and not deserving of our trust is a bold and outrageous thing to say to the ears of most. But if there is ever truth in anything, there is truth in that. God himself is the only one deserving of our trust. He is the only one who will never fail us, never mislead us and never let us down. As God’s children we know this to be true.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:4-5
This is the big picture.
The smaller picture in this case feels a little less specific. While God may not say to trust people we are to love them. That he says over and over.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 (NIV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Here, God tells us to always trust and earlier he said to never trust his people. But I must ask, what is the power behind love. What is the true, most pure definition of love? The answer is God himself. God is love. (1 John 4:8) So, in trusting God’s people we must experience love, we must experience Him and trust in Him and Him alone. He will guide us.
On a smaller scale trust is a delicate thing, one easily broken and painstakingly healed. Often times, because we place our trust in man, there is a certain fear that follows trust. Fear of lose, fear of failure, fear of worthlessness. God also speaks against such fears!
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 1 John 4:18
While yes, placing our whole trust in man is foolish, there is something to be said about being vulnerable enough to face your fears and open up to someone in this way and love them; trust them.
In my family we were always taught that when you let someone borrow something to not expect it back and if by happen chance they do return it, in whatever condition they return it in, it is a blessing. Sometimes I think trusting people is similar. Yes, we should trust them, we should open ourselves up and let people in, but not without asking God to guide us all the while. If you don’t involve God in where you place your trust your trust will be broken. Our full trust should be placed in God, who rules over everything, who created everything, who loves everyone, he will never break your trust and he will heal your trust broken by man.