In planning a wedding there is so, so much to do, spend and think about. Here are 10 simple, yet oh so helpful tips I have learned along the way. Let me know what you think and be sure to share any wedding planning tips you have!
1 // Make a Binder!
Right after Brian proposed and I said yes! we kissed and hugged enjoying the pure romance of the moment and then the very next thing I said was, “I literally can not wait to put a wedding binder together!” And I am SO happy I did this right away. I bought all the supplies the very next day and set to work coming up with a system that I thought would work best for me. I use it to store ALL of my receipts, business cards and information I need for wedding planning. I also use it for brainstorming ideas and for checking off things on my to-do lists! (more on to-do lists below) I intend on doing a complete post on my wedding binder soon, so stay tuned!
(above to-do list template found here. the above photos are not mine.)
2 // Make To-Do lists in advance.
The third thing I said after getting engaged was something about how excited I was about all the to-do lists I would get to make. I love me some to-do lists! Seriously, is it just me or is checking off boxes on a long to-do list not the most satisfying things ever!? Whether it’s something you enjoy or not I strongly suggest that you make a month by month to-do list. I realize this is a big task to do right away, but have a general idea of exactly what needs done each month before your big day has already proven SO helpful for me. I used this template I found on pintrest as a base for my to-do lists. I really love it because they have separate (printable!) lists for a 12 month, 6 month and 4 month engagement period.
Here are some of the things I added to these lists.
- Plan wedding DIY craft day (planned!) and by gifts for the bridal party and the groomsmen
- Purchase gifts for the wedding party.
- Plan a day dress shopping with the bridal party.
(more pins + their links here. the above photos are not mine.)
3 // Know what you want and say it.
If you haven’t already, you should think about every detail. Spend time pouring over magazines and pinning a thousand wedding pins. (see my wedding board for some ideas) It is SO important that you know what you want you are the bride and basically you are in charge of everything, everyone will look to you to see what you want and if all you say is “umm, I’m not sure…” then nothing is going to go like you’d imagined at all.
3b // Searching for the right decor, feel and theme for your wedding is important, but I’m gonna be brutally honest, there is no way everything will be 100% the way you want it. You can plan and plan but after a while you can only do so much. This is why I think it’s important you and your fiancé choose the top three or four aspects decide what’s the most important to you so you can both have realistic expectations and better budget for your special day. For example, for Brian and I (1) the photography, (2) a woodsy and outdoorsy feel and (3) a short engagement were the things that Brian and I decided are the most important for us. So, all of our wedding planning decisions will be influenced around those three things.
(see more on our wedding colors here.)
4 // Choose your battles.
Remember when I said that “there is no way everything will be 100% the way you want it” well I was right. With this in mind you should choose your battles wisely! We all have those family members that are a bit pushy or think they know exactly what you want; this is where choosing your battles comes into play. If it doesn’t affect one of your important aspects or the structure, theme or mood of your wedding don’t be uptight about it. Nobody wants to go to bridzillas wedding and if you complain or get frustrated with every little thing that’s the wedding they will be going to.
(see more from my hand drawn engagement invites here.)
5 // Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Remember that to-do list I told you to make? Well, there are a ton of boxes on that thing! If you don’t ask for help you’re not gonna have any hair left on your pretty little head by the time you walk down that aisle. I planned a Ladies craft day for my DIY Woodsy wedding. I need a way I could use all the offers for help in a constructive way. Because while you will need the help there are only so many jobs that other people can do. So, I invited all the women I could think of on my guest list whom I thought would enjoy helping or have already offered and figured we’d make a day of it!
(see more about my photo album guest book here.)
6 // Delegate Jobs Wisely.
I realize this sounds like number 5, but let me stop you right there – it’s not. In number six I wanted to talk to you about the people in which you give jobs to. Planning a wedding is big deal for everyone involved, it’s important that you choose wisely to whom you give jobs to. Be sure they are people who can handle the time and energy it will take. Basically just be considerate of their time and feelings about the matter.
7 // Take a FULL day off.
Especially as the ball gets rolling and the planning is in full storm it is important that you take a whole entire day off from the planning. Sit back, watch Friends, drink some coffee, go on a walk and don’t worry or stress about any of the details. It will all come together eventually, the more you stress the more stressful it will get. (a wise (mildly repetitive) saying coined by yours truly. humble too.)
(see more from our engagement photos here.)
8 // Enjoy it!
As much as some of these tips make it seem as though wedding planning is stressful and overwhelming I haven’t found that to be true at all! I am having such fun working on planning our wedding primarily because I know I am my best friend is helping me along the way, and when we get married in just over two months time I know it will all be worth it.